Sometimes I get jealous...
I think it happens to everyone but we really don't like to admit to it...
I can usually be happy for the success of others but sometimes something happens that makes it hard for me to do that and I'll tell you that it happened to me about two weeks ago...
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I heard from a fellow co-worker about another co-worker who has recently written a book and has been promoting it everywhere...and will soon be leaving the agency I work for in the glow of this success.
I wish I could say that I was happy for her, but it got under my skin. Because I began to play "The Comparison Game":
- I haven't written a book
- I'm no where near to finding a better paying job or better work opportunity
- I don't have the educational degree my co-worker has
...but a few hours later I was able to play a different game - "The Appreciation and Gratitude Game":
- I have been submitting quite a lot of artwork in this past year alone that has or will be seen by a great many people
- I've been blogging about things that seem to be helping some of you, my dear readers (at least I hope so!)
- I am taking steps toward a life of self-sustaining, self-employment, though the pay-off feels like a long ways off...
- I've got quite a few years of experience and wisdom behind me! =-)
And my life path is certainly different from the path of my co-worker...
Some of the things I've accomplished this year - not bad, eh??!?
When I discussed this with a good friend, she pointed out that I was probably upset because it's someone who is working at the same agency but having a far different experience than I am, and to remember that my co-worker probably spent some time on the office computer writing that novel!!
My friend was right, especially about that last part, I'm sure... ;)
And with that idea in mind it was easier for me to see my co-worker when I happened to be at the main office this week and congratulate her on her accomplishments, listen to her speak about her future plans beyond her last day working and wish her the best of luck...
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It's not always easy to to keep the Beast of Jealousy at bay, but if we can take a moment to remind our selves of our own amazing accomplishments, instead of comparing ourselves to others (I know, it's not always easy!!) we can have room to be happy for the success of others, especially if we can also remind ourselves that if others are able to succeed, we can succeed too.
In truth, I am already successful...
In what ways are YOU successful that you haven't acknowledged lately?? What can YOU be proud of that you'd like to share here today? I want to hear about it and you better shout it from the rooftops!! ;)